11 Life-changing Ways To Boost Your Confidence And Self Esteem

You want to be like every other person, who fill the air around them with their "intimidating" confidence and high self esteem.

But you haven't got a chance in hell of seeing that kind of character in you unless you can find a way of boosting your confidence and self esteem.

Of course, the big question is how can you do that?

Low self esteem is an elusive creature.

Sure, you occasionally dive into conversations without a second thought, instead of engaging in negative self-talks as you would normally do, but it's not like you've gotten over low self confidence and self esteem.

You worry that you're always backing down to appease others, that you take constructive criticism too personal, that you're afraid to contribute your opinion in conversations.

As if that is not enough...

You also worry that you're finding it difficult to handle genuine complements, that you constantly compare yourself to others, but you'll be damned if you can figure out the magic formula.

And the truth is, unless you can find a way to get a boost of confidence and self esteem, you're in trouble.

But there's a way to break-off from the captivating chain of self distrust or lack of confidence.

Am talking about the magical spell, that can take your confidence and self esteem from teetering on the brink of abject failure to climax, giving you the confident life you always longed for.

Read on to find out...

Ways To Boost Your Confidence And Self Esteem




You know too well that having a low self esteem is devastating.

Because, low self esteem can make you have a bad feeling about yourself and make you lack confidence.

Not just that...

Low self esteem, can hinder you from achieving astonishing and brazen goals like;

Going for your preferred job interview, confidently talk freely to people anywhere you find yourself, make new friends and build a great bond with them, ask your long time crush out for a date and possibly end up as lovers or even parents.

I think you’ll agree with me when I say…

You wouldn't want to be hindered from doing such great things.

But don't worry...

'cause I've put together, 11 Life-changing Ways To Boost Your Confidence And Self Esteem

That will definitely help you out.

Let's dive in...

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1. Eliminate Negative Thoughts.


Are you having negative thoughts about yourself?

Do you feel like you're not good enough?

Do you feel like you won't be able to do something?

Millions of people like you who are fond of nursing or having negative thoughts, are having tough time dealing with self love and acceptance.

If you're having negative thoughts always, you're bond to always feel unlovable, awkward and incompetent.

Because, negative thinking brings you down as well as your confidence.

But unless you can stay away from negative thoughts you'll always have a low self esteem.

What if I told you that the surest way to get over low self esteem and be confident is to eliminate negative thoughts.

As earlier said, nursing negative thoughts always have a way of bringing you and your self confidence down.

Inorder to be confident, then you have to eliminate and get rid of all annoying negative thoughts.

I mean;

Negative thoughts like; "I can't do it" "am not good enough" and so on..

Should never cross your mind for you to breakaway from the captivating chain of self distrust or lack of confidence.

2. Counteract your negative thoughts with positive ones

You already know that having negative thoughts are the main driving force behind low self-esteem and lack of confidence.

You also know that negative thoughts always have a way of bringing you and your self confidence down.

And you know better than anyone that you need to get rid of all annoying negative thoughts.

But the big question is...

How can you effectively do that?

Simple, you just have to contract all your negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

Because, eliminating negative thoughts only gets easier if you can figure out ways to counteract them with assuring positive thoughts.

Eliminating or doing away with negative thoughts, brings about high self esteem and a confidence mindset which has been your long time dream.

So what are you waiting for?

Make your dreams come true.

Listen up...

Whenever you feel like, you "can't do it" always say to yourself that you can perfectly do it because you've got more than what it takes to get anything done or to accomplish any goal.

3. Hangout with positive friends


Do you have friends who do nothing but talk you down or downgrade you always?

Countless number of people just like you, surround themselves with the wrong kind of people they call their friends.

Friends that have a lot of negative impact on them, friends that always make them feel inferior, incompetent and less confident.

Friends that demotivate them and make them feel bad about themselves.

Friends that simply get their mission accomplished by down-talking them and telling them all sorts of bull-shit for their own selfish reasons.

Leaving people like you, wondering if they have something different or wondering if something is actually wrong with them.

But unless, you hangout with the right kind of people, you're bond to always feel unlovable, awkward and incompetent.

Why not get yourself a new set of friends???

Go ahead, get yourself new positive minded friends that won't

Friends have a lot of impact on us which might be positive or negative. So try as much as you can to surround yourself with positive friends that don't downgrade or down talk you in anyway as that will go a long way in making your more confident. Also mind what you say about yourself when you are with your friends, so as not to down talk yourself because, it will affect the way they view you.

4. Find what you are good at

What are good at?

Can you dance or sing?

What talent do you have?

A lot of people who wish to be confident and have a high self esteem, get themselves worked up, trying so hard to do things there are almost terrible or bad at.

They do this, so that they'll be acknowledged and respected by people and so, they hope to magically get over low self esteem and lead a normal life.

But unfortunately, it doesn't work out that way...

For sure, everything will seam to be going fine at first, but things are definitely gonna turn real bad as time goes on...

Because, they're not actually good in whatever it is, they are trying so hard to impress people by doing.

Hence, they get criticized and blasted by the same people they're so bent on getting respect from.

Making them to feel bad about themselves and as a result, they become less confident than they were.

But unless you do great things, that you're actually good at, you're never gonna be like every other person, who fill the air around them with their "intimidating" confidence and high self esteem.

Listen up...

You have to find your talent or what you are good at and do it often.

It could be singing, dancing or anything at all, that suits your soul.

Just try and find out how you can use it help others or advance your career. It will make you feel good about yourself.

Believe me, when you begin to feel good about yourself, you're a big step closer to becoming a better and confident version of yourself.

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5. Learn to take compliments.

Are you finding it difficult to take compliments?

Are you fond of depreciating genuine complements?

Do you often feel like you don't have many good qualities that you should be complemented on?

Millions or thousands of people like you, are finding it really difficult to deal with or handle genuine complements.

Most of the times, they avoid any circumstance or situation that might make anyone pay them compliments.

Because, they're always kept off balance or disoriented whenever they are complimented on; their looks, their outfits, their smiles and so on.

For this reason, they involuntarily depreciate the compliments saying all sorts of blunders about themselves that will affect the way people around them treat them.

But there's something I want you to know...

I want you to know that, taking complements positively is a sign of confidence and high self esteem.

Unless you master the art of taking compliments, you're always gonna feel awkward if someone pays you a genuine compliment.

Am sure, you know very well that awkward feelings are the building blocks of low confidence and self esteem.

You just need to learn to take compliments positively.

But the question is;

How?

Simple, when someone pays you a compliment, just smile and say "Thank You" if you don't know what else to say. No matter how awkward it may seem.

6. Be lively

Are you sick and tired of feeling unloved and unwanted?

Are you sick and tired of feeling bad about yourself?

Then, its crystal clear that you need to get a boost of confidence and self esteem.

So many people like you, that are suffering from low self esteem, wish to confidently talk freely to people anywhere they find themselves, make new friends and build a great bond with them, ask their long time crush out for a date and possibly end up as lovers or even parents.

But they go about achieving their goals the wrong way.

As they scare away people from coming close to them due to the fact that they aren't lively.

They don't smile, make eye contacts and keep their body language in check. Once people avoid them, they feel themselves.

But unless you're a lively person, you'll never stop feeling bad about yourself.

Smiling a lot, making eye contacts and keeping your body language in check, makes you a lively person.

No just that...

It will definitely send signals of positive vibes to people around you and hence, act as a force of attraction pulling them close to you and making you feel at ease and good about yourself.

Always try practicing being lively even if you are scared inside.

If you fake being lively all the time you will eventually be the changed person you wish to be.

7. Never Compare yourself to others

Do you often compare yourself to others?

Millions of people like you, who are so bent on comparing themselves to others, end-up feeling bad about: themselves, their failures, their inabilities and so on...

Therefore, they get intimidated by their shortcomings and they end-up becoming less confident and develop a low self esteem.

I guess, you don't want to continue like this...

The surest way out of such a mess is to desist from comparing yourself to other people.

Listen up..

We all have our own flaws, we all are not perfect and I know you must have heard this a thousand times over.

But the truth is, bearing this in mind, will definitely help you accept your weaknesses and if you do, you'll never compare yourself to others.

Hence, getting a total boost in your confidence and self esteem.

8. Go For It

Yes you heard me right...

Go for it, go-ahead take the risk and do that, which you always wanted to do but you were too scared of doing.

Do you want to go for your preferred job interview?

Do you want to ask your crush out?

Go out of your comfort zone and actualize your dreams.

Because, you'll always feel good and proud of yourself if you make it happen and that will also go a long way in boosting your confidence and self esteem.

Listen...

One trial could be holding you back from actualizing your dreams. Why not try your luck? Besides, there's no harm in trying.

So, just do it!

9. Be Patience

I know you want to be a confident person.

I know you are sick and tired of feeling unloved, awkward and incompetent.

I also know that you want to get over that feeling as soon as possible.

But the truth is that...

You just got to be kind to yourself by being patience.

You've to take things easy and follow all the confidence boosting techniques.

Low self esteem, is so much attached to negative thoughts.

You don't expect your negative thoughts to change in a nick of time.

So, you have to be patient.

10. Work On Yourself


Are you having this delusional view of yourself as unattractive?

Then, know that you'll never get a chance in hell to be confident in your life.
Otherwise, look for a way to get rid of such thoughts.

Such thoughts are considered to be negative and like all negative thoughts, your confidence will always be down whenever you nurse them.

Unless you figure out the magical spell that will set you free, you'll be damned to always see yourself as inferior whenever you're around others.

That doesn't sound good right?

Now, what if a tell you that there is a way out. And that way is to work on yourself.

Listen...

Work on yourself, try to look more attractive and have enough sleep.

Because, by doing so, you'll get that positive mindset you've been looking for which is also the number one criteria to be confident and have a high self esteem.

11.Be Grateful

Reminding ourselves of the good things we have, helps to put everything in order.

It helps us start each day with hearts full of joy and in a positive frame of mind!

Therefore...

Take a moment every single day *when you first wake up is good* to think about the things you are grateful for.

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Conclusion


These confidence and self esteem boosting tips aren't magical, mystical or complicated. In fact you could consider them totally boring, plain and inconsequential or unimportant.

But applying confidence and self esteem boosting rules is what separates confident and high esteem people from the masses, enables them to reach their life goals, take risks, make decisions on their own and have positive minds.

Look at it this way: You might have gone through a lot ranging from; backing down to appease others, taking constructive criticism too personal, being afraid to contribute your opinion in conversations, finding it hard to handle genuine complements and comparing yourself to others, all because you lack confidence and self esteem. So now, why shouldn't you live your life exactly the way you wanted to, by applying the ways to boost confidence and self esteem enlisted above?

Or are you one of those people who think they bring nothing to the table or are not as valuable as others? Well, you might be surprised by just how some little, plain tips would change your life.

Try this: Accept that we all have unique talents, stop thinking others are better than you and bear in mind that, we teach others how to treat us by projecting ourselves as people whose opinions are as valid as others.

Sure, boosting confidence and self esteem takes time

And yes, you're already sick and tired of feeling unloved, awkward and incompetent.

But your confident heroes never back down to appease others, take constructive criticism too personal or are never afraid of contributing their opinions in conversations you wish you could.

So, take a break from "I can't do it" and start working on the tips listed above right now.

Your newly built confidence and self esteem will thank you.

How do you managed to get over low self esteem? Tell us via the comments!

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